It was Vanessa Carlton’s new song “I Don’t Want to Be a Bride” that inspired this mix idea. I like Carlton’s song because it expresses the increasingly common decision many couples are making to be life partners without ever getting married. I’m referring to straight couples as well as gay couples who don’t have the rights yet. I don’t know whether or not I would get married if I met the right person (so don’t freak out, Mom), but I know I’ve never sat around dreaming about my wedding. If anything, the idea of planning a huge party stresses me out. This is anathema to everything the bridal industry tries to sell you about your wedding day and how it will be the most magical, perfect day of your life, and how you’d better spend lots of cash to make it that way. (I am glad some people buy into that idea though because my mom is a bridal seamstress and she needs to pay the rent. But please, please bring your bra, slip and shoes to your fitting, ok?) I think a marriage is much more than a wedding, and a marriage might not be the best partnership arrangement for every couple.
Uh, anyway, what was I saying? Right. After I listened to the Vanessa Carlton song I thought of a Nellie McKay song that expresses the completely opposite idea, “I Wanna’ Get Married.” I like this song too and I think it’s feminist in its own way for being unashamed about what the singer wants, even if being “just” a housewife is less culturally acceptable these days than seeking a high-powered career.
Anyway, the real point of this post is that there must be more sets of songs that are opposites. I think that’s a great idea for a mix, so I started brainstorming and here’s what I have so far:
Partridge Family – I Think I Love You
10 CC – I’m Not in Love (Granted, the singer says s/he is not in love when obviously s/he is totally in love. But I’ll take the surface meaning of this song instead of the deeper one.)
Chess (The Musical) – I Know Him So Well
Ben Folds feat. Regina Spektor – You Don’t Know Me
(There seem to be several other songs with the title “You Don’t Know Me” too
Got any others? Let me know in the comments!